Books for Adopted Adults

Although we recognize that not all adoptees are in emotional turmoil, the following books have been helpful to many adopted adults.

Adoption Healing ...a path to recovery  by Joseph M. Soll.  This book offers step-by-step guidelines on how through anger and pain to contentment.

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David M. Brodzinsky, Ph.D.; Marshall D. Schechter, MD & Robin Marantz Henig (1992). This book overlays potential adoption developmental tasks on Erik Erickson’s model of developmental tasks. It’s value to adopted
adults would be to understand some of the processes they went through or are going through.

Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up.  by Nancy Newton Verrier.  In this amazing resource book, Verrrier talks about anger, rage, guilt, shame, sorrow, joy, and many other emotions that adoptees experience.  She discusses reunion issues for the birth
parent, adoptive parent, and siblings/spouses of triad members which is helpful for all triad members to see how the others side(s) feel.

Growing Up Again, By  Sherrie Eldridge  This well written gives tremendous insights into the kind of parenting one receives and the affects of that parenting on their own ability to parent. One chapter is devoted entirely to adoption.

The Adoption Reader: Birth Mothers, Adoptive Mothers and Adopted Daughters Tell Their Stories, Edited by Susan Wadia-Ellis, (1995) The stories in this book are often eloquent and moving, even controversial. The women’s voices are very honest.

Adoption Reunion Survival Guide: Preparing Yourself for the Search, Reunion and Beyond, by Julie Jarrell Bailey & Lynn N. Giddens, MA (2001) Great suggestions on “do’s" and "don’ts.” Bailey and Giddens review preparation, pitfalls and legal issues.

Sacred Connections: Stories of Adoption Essays by Mary Ann Koenig (2000).  A very honest book, sometimes difficult to read because of the pain. Adults that were adopted may find shared feelings with some of the story subjects.

Searching for a Past: The Adopted Adults Unique Process of Finding Identity by Jayne Schooler (1995).  A realistic and sensitive look at real feelings, real barriers, real pain and real

Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make by Sherrie Eldridge. This  is yet another healing book Christian adoptee, Sherrie Eldridge.  The book provides exercises at the end of each chapter that offer practical faith based and non-faith based solutions to healing the pain caused by adoption.